The American Book of Living and Dying: Lessons in Healing Spiritual Pain by Richard F. Groves and Henriette Anne Klauser (2009) Groves and Klauser weave threads of ancient wisdom with stories from real-life experiences to create a uniquely American and practical guide for dying well.
Consolation: The Spiritual Journey Beyond Grief by Maurice Lamb (2004) In this sequel to The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning, Rabbi Lamm helps mourners not just get through their grief, but also grow from the experience. [NHCPL]
Coping with Grief and Loss Harvard Health Publications (2010) Purchase hard or digital copy directly from Harvard Medical School.
The Empty Chair: Handling Grief on Holidays and Special Occasions by Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge and Robert C. De Vries (2001) The authors share a comforting blend of emotional support, spiritual guidance, and personal experience to help readers honor their loved one on important days.
*** A Good Friend for Bad Times: Helping Others Through Grief by Deborah E. Bowen and Susan L. Strickler (2004) A practical resource. In this book the authors, both grief counselors, give specific instructions on both “what to do and say” and “what not to say.” [NHCPL]
Grief Recovery Handbook: The Action Program for Moving Beyond Death, Divorce, and Other Losses by John W. James and Russell Friedman (2009) This book presents the authors’ action program that will help the reader regain a sense of meaning, value, and joy, even though their life is different than it was before the loss occurred. [NHCPL]
Grieving: A Beginners Guide by Jerusha Hull McCormack (2006) The author writes straight from the heart in simple language that is infused with a spirituality that is never preachy or pushy. [NHCPL]
Grieving Mindfully: A Compassionate and Spiritual Guide to Coping with Loss by Sameet M.Kumar, Ph.D. (2005) The author describes a mindful path that not only transforms and heals grief but also show how to develop the emotional resilience to move beyond the time of loss.
Grieving the Loss of a Loved One by H. Norman Wright (2013) The author is a grief and trauma therapist who responds to national disasters. Here he discusses how grief permeates and changes your feelings, thoughts, and attitudes. [NHCPL]
*** Healing Grief, Finding Peace: 101 Ways to Cope with the Death of Your Loved One by Louis E. Lagrand (2011) Among his suggestions: start each day with an affirmative action; learn to enjoy new routines; and let go of “If onlies” and “What ifs.” [NHCPL]
Helping Grieving People: When Tears Are Not Enough by J. Shep Jeffreys, ED.D., C.T. (2005) This handbook for care givers is readable, highly personal, and broadly informative. Geared at both counselors and bereaved persons. An extensive bibliography and resources section.
Liberating Losses: When Death Brings Relief by Jennifer Elison, Ed.D. and Chris McGonigle, Ph.D. (2003) A book for those struggling with unfinished business and ambivalent feelings.
On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross (2007) The author applies the classic five stages to the grieving process and weaves together theory, inspiration, and practical advice, including sections on sadness, hauntings, dreams, isolation, and healing. [NHCPL]
The Other Side of Sadness: What the New Science of Bereavement Tells Us About Life After Loss by George A. Bonanno (2009) Weaving in explorations of mourning rituals and the universal experiences of the death of a parent or child, the author examines how our inborn emotions—anger and denial, but also relief and joy—help us deal effectively with loss
Saying Goodbye by Barbara Okum and Joseph Nowinski (2011) The psychologist authors take the family group through the stages of grief: Crisis; Unity; Upheaval; Resolution; and Renewal. Particular useful are Chapter 8 “Navigating the Medical and Social Services Mazes,” and Chapter 14 “Caretaking and Self-Care.” The resources section also has a number of listing I haven’t seen elsewhere. [NHCPL]
Saying Goodbye to Someone You Love by Norine Dresser and Fredda Wesserman (2010) Up-to-date and easy to read narrative stories cover the journey from terminal illness through grief and beginning a new life. [NHCPL]
Six Word Lessons On Coping With Grief: 100 Lessons to Help You and Your Loved Ones Deal with Loss by Shirley Enebrad (2013) Simple but wise words, in six word sentences, will give the grieving a place to begin and a way to ask for help when needed. [NHCPL]
*** The Truth about Grief: The Myth of its Five Stages and the New Science of Loss by Ruth Davis Konisgberg (2011) The author shows how the five stages were not based on science but nonetheless became national myth. She explains that current research paints a completely different picture of how we actually grieve. It turns out people are pretty well programmed to get over loss. Grieving should not be a strictly regimented process, she argues, nor is the best remedy for pain always to examine it or express it at great length. [NHCPL]
Using the Power of Hope to Cope with Dying by Cathleen Fanslow-Brunjes (2008) Proposes the theory of the “Four States of Hope.” [NHCPL]
What Really Matters: Seven Lessons for Living from the Stories of the Dying by Karen M. Wyatt (2011) A collection of stories from the files of a hospice physician that reveal the end of life wisdom of several dying patients and their families. [NHCPL]
When You Don’t Know What to Say: How to Help Your Grieving Friends by Harold Ivan Smith (2012) Sharing another’s grief is not about ’fixing-it’– it’s about showing up. The author guides others to respond with their heart. He shows tangible, meaningful ways to make a significant difference as one journeys through grief with someone they care about.
When Your Pet dies: A Guide to Mourning, Remembering, and Healing by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. (2004) Among the issues covered are understanding the many emotions experienced after the death of a pet, understanding why grief for pets is unique, pet funerals and burial or cremation, celebrating and remembering the life of one’s pet, coping with feelings about euthanasia, helping children understand the death of their pet, and things to keep in mind before getting another pet.
Yoga for a Broken Heart: A Spiritual Guide to Healing from Break-up, Loss, Death or Divorce by Michelle Paisley (2007) From gentle warm-up poses through more active movements to final relaxation and meditation, this book gives the reader practical tools to relieve their pain.
*** Yoga for Grief Relief: Simple Practices for Transforming Your Grieving Mind and Body by Antonio Sausys (2014) It’s not uncommon for grieving people to experience depression, anxiety, fatigue, and a variety of other physical, mental, and spiritual symptoms. If you’ve tried other ways to move beyond your loss but have yet to find relief, you may be surprised to discover the transformative effects of yoga.
*** Books I personally think are exceptional either in content or readability or both. Worth buying.
This bibliography was prepared by Rebecca Taylor, Funeral Consumers Alliance – Costal Carolina. Notation of “NHCPL” means the New Hanover County Public Library.
Please check your local public library, or request titles by Interlibrary Loan. Virtually all titles are also available from online bookstores, like amazon.com, often in “used” and other inexpensive editions.,
Questions or for more copies contact:
Rebecca Taylor, President
Funeral Consumers Alliance Coastal Carolina
P.O. Box 4262
Wilmington, NC 28406