Loss of a Parent
A Daughter Reborn: From Baby Girl to Midlife Orphan by Monnie Whitson (2010) This is a true account of the author’s 6-year journey to letting go of her parents. Along the way the reader will discover how to forge heartbreak into a celebration of love for those no longer in our lives. [NHCPL]
*** Death Benefits: How Losing a Parent Can Change an Adult’s Life – For the Better by Jeanne Safer (2008) “Safer shows that whether a mother or father was devoted or despotic, loved or loathed, parent loss can be the most potent catalyst for change in midlife.”
Healing the Adult Child’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Parent Dies by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph. D. (2002) The common challenges that face grieving adult children, such as helping the surviving parent, resolving sibling conflicts, and legal and financial issues are addressed clearly and concisely.
by Victoria Secunda (2000) Based on the author’s original study, she addresses questions such as, “How does one’s behavior and decision making change when one no longer has parents to please or rebel against?” and “How does the loss of a parent affect feelings among siblings – does it make the bonds stronger or weaker?” [NHCPL]
Nobody’s Child Anymore by Barbara Bartocci (2000) the author explores the emotions of grieving, caring, and comforting when parents die. [NHCPL]
Loss of a Child
And a Sword Shall Pierce Your Heart: Moving from Despair to Meaning after the Death of a Child by Charlotte Mathes (2006) Jungian psychoanalyst, Mathes helps parents discover the “myth” they have been living and find ways to greater self-awareness, understanding and wisdom. [NHCPL]
Beyond Tears: Living After Losing a Child by Ellen Mitchell (2005) Actually written by a group of women, all of who have lost a child, topics include coping with mourning, dealing with holidays and birthdays, and how to rekindle your spirit. [NHCPL]
Comfort: A Journey through Grief by Ann Hood (2008) When Hood’s five-year-old daughter died suddenly she was stunned and devastated. In this small book she traces her descent into grief and reveals the people and places where she found hope again. [NHCPL]
The Death of a Child: Reflections for Grieving Parents by Elaine E. Stillwell (2004) Includes stories of people dealing with their grief in a wide variety of ways. From a small Christian press, the author is founder and chapter leader of The Compassionate Friends of Rockville Centre.
Healing a Parent’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Child Dies by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D (2002) This guide addresses common problems for grieving parents, including dealing with marital stress, helping surviving siblings, dealing with hurtful advice, and exploring feelings of guilt.
The Lively Shadow: Living With the Death of a Child by Donald Morison Murray (2003) In this deeply felt, nicely written reminiscence, Murray, a Pulitzer Prize- winning journalist, explains how he never truly recovered from the death of Lee, the second of his three daughters. [NHCPL]
Saving Henry: A Mother’s Journey by Laurie Strongin (2010) The story of a family’s extraordinary effort to save a child and how they coped with his eventual loss.
Loss of a Sibling
Healing the Adult Sibling’s Grieving Heart: 100 Practical Ideas After Your Brother or Sister Dies by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph. D. (2008) Whether a sibling has died as a young or older adult or the death was sudden or anticipated, this resource provides a healthy approach to dealing with the aftermath.
Sibling Grief: Healing After the Death of a Sister or Brother by Pleasant White, Ph.D. (2008) The author draws on both clinical experience and her own deeply personal experience, along with wisdom from hundreds of bereaved siblings, to explain the five healing tasks unique to sibling grief.
Sudden Loss, Traumatic Death, Suicide, Murder
A Gift like No Other: Surviving the Violent Death of Someone You Love by Kathleen O’Hara, M.A. (2006) Presents ways to cope realistically with feelings of guilt, terror, anger, and anxiety. It also has suggestions on developing inner resources and a support network. [NHCPL]
*** I Wasn’t Ready to Say Goodbye: Surviving, Coping, and Healing After the Sudden Death of a Loved One by Brook Noel and Pamela D. Blair Ph.D. (2008) Covers such difficult topics as the first few weeks, suicide, death of a child, children and grief, funerals and rituals, physical effects, homicide, and depression. [NHCPL]
No Time for Goodbyes: Coping with Sorrow, Anger, and Injustice after a Tragic Death by Janice Harris Lord (2000) What’s unique in this book is the section on coping with the criminal justice system.
Touched by Suicide: Hope and Healing after Loss by Michael F. Myers M.D. and Carle Fine (2006) The authors combine their perspectives as a physician and a survivor to offer compassionate and practical advice to anyone affected by suicide. [NHCPL]
Understanding Your Suicide Grief: Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. (2009) This compassionate guide explores the unique responses inherent in grief. Uses the metaphor of the wilderness to present 10 ways to cope with grief.
*** Books I personally think are exceptional either in content or readability or both. Worth buying.
This bibliography was prepared by Rebecca Taylor, Funeral Consumers Alliance – Costal Carolina. Notation of “NHCPL” means the New Hanover County Public Library.
Please check your local public library, or request titles by Interlibrary Loan. Virtually all titles are also available from online bookstores, like amazon.com, often in “used” and other inexpensive editions.,
Questions or for more copies contact:
Rebecca Taylor, President
Funeral Consumers Alliance Coastal Carolina
P.O. Box 4262
Wilmington, NC 28406